1) Grey are free members, Blue are Paying members, Gold are paying Founder Members who paid between the Games Start Date of October 31st, 2007 and December 2nd, 2007
2) Yes, check to see if the box beside you chat skull (when you open your chat box) hasa + sign in it - this means you have parental controls turned on for chat. Others who have this on cannot read adult message, and if you have it on you will not receive them.
Edit - Zep started at teh top - I started at the bottom - glad you got your answer
